New decade, who dis?!?!
So I turn 30 today and I am in my feelings. I love birthdays and 30 is a milestone age. As I reflect on my 30 years of life, I am so amazed at how blessed I am and all that I have been able to see and do. Conversely, I am very analytical and use this birthday as a benchmark to evaluate what aspects of my life deserve more of my attention. Obviously, by starting this blog, I have made clear my intention to improve my work-life balance. I also want to create deeper connections and foster genuine relationships.
30 Year Recap (the highlight reel):
- Completed 20 years of school + 4 years of residency (1 more left!!!!)
- Lived in 7 States
- Traveled to 13 countries
- Bought a home
- Delivered commencement address at my Alma Mater, North Carolina Central University (Eagle Pride!)
- Made my family proud 😉
30 Years of Lessons:
Always be kind…
It is very simple, kindness gets you far. It may not seem that way because society has led us all to believe that “nice guys finish last.” I have been exposed to people from all walks of life in my profession and in my opinion, those that make the greatest impact, no matter their education level or their intellect, are those who are kind. No matter how much I ascend in my career, I will strive to be kind to everyone I encounter.
You don’t know your strength until it is tested…
Some of the most difficult and life-altering experiences in life are losing a loved one, moving, and starting a new job. When my father died a week after I graduated from college, I was devastated and faced with the prospect of having to move to another state, away from family and friends, and beginning my studies at Harvard Medical School in a few short months. Despite all of that, I don’t remember ever thinking about quitting or trying to take an easier route. I knew that God would bring me through it and my faith has consistently been met with provision each and every time.
In all things, give thanks…
To quote one of my favorite poems, “Life for me ain’t been no crystal stair.” Life can be hard. Really hard. The thing that has helped me through is by taking stock of how blessed I am and have been in the past. It’s easier said than done but cultivating an attitude of appreciation can really morph your view of your current situation towards optimism. I have had countless moments when I felt like achieving my goals was impossible and the odds seemed insurmountable. I am honestly thankful for those moments because they have made my triumphs even more rewarding.
I have definitely had some highs and some lows, but the good has markedly outweighed the bad. I hope to continue to grow personally and professionally. At this point in my life, I do kind of feel that I am defined by my profession. I desire to have more dimensions and endeavor to make my life more well-rounded. I will be more social which is very hard for me as an introvert and I will be more transparent. I am excited to see what the next decade of my life holds.